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亲爱的儿子： 我可能二三十年都没有给你写过信，由于你不识中文所以我还要转成英文给你。 210822
我只是想让你知道,我是1972年30岁来美国的，来时只带了200美金。在台湾我在民航局工作做飞航管制员，待遇与地位都还不错。我考取了留美考试，因脑电波跳动太快而没有让我到美国培训。
1972年我单身一人将你妈妈和你留在台湾和姥姥同住，当时你才1岁半。我在加州中国餐馆辛苦的打工8个月后才进入了China Airlines做一个小职员，每月只赚400美元。1年半后（你 3岁时）我将你们母子接来美国，因为钱赚很少日子过得很辛苦。
1975年我仍在华航工作，我在租房楼下的店面开了一家小旅行社（美国七海集旅游公司）卖国际机票，你妈与一位平小姐负责在旅行社看着，那时什么都不懂，我每天将订好座位开好的机票带回家，每张可以赚$30美金，对生活有些帮助。而且你妈妈也可以同时照顾你。
1975年我花了$3.75万美金（包括向同事借了$8000美金），我没有向我父母借一块钱在旧金山Concord买了第一栋集合式公寓租个别人收取租金，自己仍在 SFO 租房居住。1976年我转到华航SFO机场上班，学习到一些关于Check in,如何挂送行李，转机和机票价格结构与海关的知识。 1978年因赚钱太少我辞职将美国七海旅游公司迁到210 Post St，联合广场，是旧金山最好的商业区。几年下来. 公司渐渐扩大，雇佣了5-6个职员。
1976年我花了$7,2000买了第2栋房子在SFO市区Mountain Davidson.终于我们有自己的房子可以住了。 1980年我的环境已经渐渐转好，1月9日我花了$35000美金买了第一辆全新的奔驰轿车Mercedes SD-300 (我是第一个开奔驰车的旅行社老板)，1982年我在旧金山市内San Francisco Wood外面半山上买了一栋约4000平方尺的房子价值 $25.5万（当时日落区的房子才$4.5万/栋）比同时到美创业的朋友来说已经远远超越他们许多。
记得1983年我带你妈妈和你（12岁），Angel（3岁）和岳母共5人去日本东京，台北，曼谷，新加坡和香港旅游度假2周，全程坐头等舱，全线住5星级酒店(或总统套房），每个地方都有人接送，请吃饭。在那年头连3岁的小孩都能坐头等舱旅游是一件很奢侈的事。
老实说我们是第一代移民，开始时的确非常辛苦，我们的英文没有你们说得好，但我们非常的努力。不论读书求学创业做事都尽量最大的能力。这么多年我非常疼爱我的2个孩子，你们从幼稚园到8年级都是读私立学校。Angel一直到高中毕业都是读私立学校。大家都知道在美国只要是公民或居民读公立中小学都是免费的。
如今我和你妈妈都年近80，都接近老年。别人像我这个年龄多半都退休了。只是这两年COVID-19以及中美的贸易大战以致对我们的生意伤害很大。旅游和教育这两项业务几乎都中断了。赚钱就没有那么容易。但我不认为我混的比别人差？凭什么我的孩子会认为我们这一代的英文没有你们好而看轻我们？你们能像我一样来美不到10年就从一个新移民变成老板，开豪车住豪宅？
我不能容忍的是我全心爱着的孩子轻视看我，你的父亲从来不是一个无能或懒惰的人，也许英文不如你们，但我能在大学课堂粒侃侃而谈，因为那是我的专业。但不论做人，做事，求学，创业，事业，创新都没有不如你。而且在我自己的房贷都没有付清前，把在旧金山的房子卖了，把Arcadia Bonita的2栋Condo卖了，赚的钱替你买了一栋在Arcadia $127万的大房子。在Angel没有对家庭做任何贡献的情况下买了一辆Benz CLK500跑车 给他。你还能说我们做父母对你们不好吗？不爱你们吗？从来只有想念子女的父母。没有想念父母的子女。除非是没有钱用了。父母的家永远是子女的家，但子女的家永远不会是父母的家。
对于这次做NMN贴标签sticker的事，我深受打击与挫败，在完成的关头想你求助遭受拒绝。心痛的几夜都睡不着。我不是学设计的，所以这是我的短板。我知道你为这个Sticker也花了许多时间和精神，我也答应如果做成功赚到钱会给你$5000,但是Covid-19是世纪的瘟疫，加上美国和中国因贸易大战两国邦交非常紧张。以致我的旅游和教育产业都受到很大的打击，难道是因为没有赚到钱，所以才会受到自己孩子的轻视与白眼。我非常难过。记得在台湾时，我开始工作了。赚的钱全部都交给我的母亲，然后她拿一点给我做零用钱。一直到我结婚都还把薪水的一部分交给妈妈做家用。你做学生没有赚钱我和你妈妈当然不会向你要钱。请问你工作后在大学教书我们有没有每个月拿过一毛钱给你妈妈做家用？你不能说因为爸爸还会赚钱就不给了。那么现在因为Covid-19， 我赚不到钱了，没有饭吃了，你应不应该养我和你的妈妈？或者宁可是看我们付不起房贷被银行把房子收回让我们流落街头？
我们虽然来美国快50年了，毕竟我们还是中国人，事事都想到自己的孩子。美国人的孩子满18岁成年就可以出去了，要上大学或工作都由自己决定。不像我们这么笨，你在名校念书时就就替你买房子，我们在高尔夫球场旁边买了2栋房子，一年后卖掉赚了$46.8 万，我们没有拿来付我们自己的房贷，都拿去给你换一栋大的房子。所以我们到现在还要背如此重的房贷。
中国人的观念就是【我父母的房子或钱就是我的，我可以随便花，将来你们死了还不是留给我？】美国人的观念就不一样，不是我们家有钱，而是我有钱，不是你有钱，我将来死后不一定留给谁？也许全部捐个国家或慈善机构？
为什么我们中国的父母就这么倒霉，有钱花在你们的身上是中国人的观念，那就是应该的。为什么找你做点事就用美国人的标准，事先要讲好做这个要付多少钱？我现在不是不付你，而是在NMN上我还没有赚到钱，我如果赚到钱一定会付给你的。
你虽然在做NMN标签上花了些时间，但并没有完全做完，因为我自己也是在一面做一面学，所以才需要一再修改。只是最后这一点修改花了我许多时间，给了我许多困扰，我几个晚上都睡不着，我心里特别难过。你知道你弟弟有忧郁症，所以我和你妈妈没有办法寄望于他，他只要不给添麻烦就算幸运了。
那么你能不能告诉我，今后我们是采用什么方式相处？中国人的方式还是美国人的方式？当然我们很感谢你在我和你妈妈的生日，结婚纪念日，过年过节时请我们吃饭每次还给我们$100美金买礼物。相对的我们也会在你的生日邀请你们吃饭或买蛋糕给你。不过我认为我们对你最大的帮助是当你和Betty太忙无法抽身时，你妈妈都是随传随到马上去你家看顾小孙女。还有你们出城不在家时，随时都是我们去你家替你收快递。我们从来没有拒绝过，只因你是我的孩子无怨又无悔。你很快就要搬新家了，如果住的远不知谁能马上开车去帮助你看顾小baby或收快递？
写了那么多，心中感到父母子女的感情怎么会如此凉薄？叫人心里拔凉拔凉的，不寒而溧。（你如果不知道什么是拔凉拔凉的，可以问Betty， 她是北方人一定听过这句话）
也许我错了，没有把你和你弟弟生在一个巨富的家庭，过那种茶来伸手，饭来张口的日子，但是我们做父母真的已经尽力了。
祝 你一切顺利，希望你一切都比我强。
Dad
My dear boy: I may not have written to you for 20 or 30 years, but since you don't know Chinese, I have to write to you in English. 210822
I just want you to know that I came to the United States in 1972 when I was 30 years old with only $200 US dollars.
In Taiwan, I worked as an air traffic controller in civil Aviation Administration, with good treatment and status.
I passed the test to study in the United States, but my brain waves were too fast to let mecan not join this train in the United States.
I left your mother and you alone in Taiwan with grandma in 1972, when you were one and a half years old.
I worked hard in A Chinese restaurant as a waiter in California for 8 months before I joined China Airlines as a clerk with only $400 per month.
A year and a half later (when you were 3 years old), I brought you and your mother to the States, and we lived very hard because we made very little money.
I still work in China Airlines in 1975, in rental apartment downstairs opened a small travel agency (seven Sea Travel and tours) to sale international air ticket, Miss Pine (Our family friend) and your mam take care business and you in the same time. We know nothing about the travel and tours. Also l bring the air tickets back to home after work, each ticket can earn $30 dollars its big help for our life.
In 1975, I spent $37,500 (including borrowing $8,000 from colleagues). I bought the first condominium in San Francisco Concord without borrowing a single dollar from my parents and rented it to somebody while we still living in the SFO.
In 1976, I transferred to China Airlines SFO Airport to work, and learned some knowledge about Check in, how to drop off luggage, transfer, ticket price structure and customs.
I quit my job in 1978 because I wasn't making enough money and moved Seven Seas Travel and Tours to 210 Post St, Union Square, the best business district in San Francisco. Over the years, the company expanded, hiring five or six employees.
In 1976 I bought a second house in The SFO downtown Mountain Davidson for $72,000.
Finally we have our own place to live in.
In 1980, my environment was getting better. On January 9, I bought my first brand new Mercedes SD-300 for $35,000 (I was the first travel agency owner to drive a Mercedes).
In 1982 I bought a 4,000-square-foot single house halfway up the hill outside San Francisco Wood in San Francisco for $255,000 (at the time houses in The Sunset area were only $45,000) far more than my friends who had come to the States to start their own businesses.
I remember in 1983, I took your mom, you (12 years old), your young brother (3 years old) and my mother-in-law to Tokyo, Taipei, Bangkok, Singapore and Hong Kong for a 2-week vacation. We flew first class all the way and stayed in 5-star hotels (or presidential suites). We were picked up from every place and invited to dinner.
It was a luxury in those days to travel first class bring a kid 3year-old.
To be honest, we are first generation immigrants. It was really hard at the beginning. Our English was not as good as yours, but we worked very hard.
No matter study entrepreneurship work as far as possible the greatest ability.
I have loved my two kids very much for many years. You went to private school from kindergarten through eighth grade. Your brother went to private school until she graduated from high school. As we all know, public primary and secondary schools in the States are free for all citizens and residents.
Now your mom and I are both approaching 80, approaching old age. Most people at my age are retired.
It's just that the last two years of COVID-19 and the trade war between the US and China have hurt our business a lot. Tourism and education have all but ceased. Making money is not so easy. But I don't think I'm any worse than anyone else, okay?
Why should my children think that our generation's English is not good and look down on us?
You can go from a new immigrant to a boss with a fancy car and a mansion in less than 10 years like me?
What I can't tolerate is that my beloved children despise me. Your father has never been an inept or lazy man. Maybe my English is not as good as yours, but I can talk freely in college classes, because that is my major.
But no matter the person, work, study, entrepreneurship, career, innovation are not as good as you?
I sold my house in San Francisco and two Arcadia Bonita Condos before my own mortgage was paid off, and the money I made bought you a big single house in Arcadia for $1.27 million.
I bought a Benz CLK500 to your brother without making any contribution to the family.
Can you still say that our parents are bad for you? Don't you love you?
There are only parents who miss their children. Children who do not miss their parents. Unless there's no money left.
The parents' home will always be the children's home, but the children's home will never be the parents' home.
I was deeply depressed and frustrated about the NMN sticker. When I asked for help, I was rejected. I couldn't sleep for several heartbreaking nights.
I'm not trained to design, so this is my weakness.
I know you have spent a lot of time and spirit on this Sticker, and I also promised to give you $5,000 if I make money successfully. However, COVID-19 is a plague in the century, and the diplomatic relations between the United States and China are very tense due to the trade war.
As a result, my tourism and education industries have been hit hard. Is it because I have not made any money that my children despise me and look at me with contempt?
I was very sad.
I remember when I was in Taiwan, I started working. All the money I earn goes to my mother, and then she gives some of it to me for my pocket money.
Until I got married, I gave part of my salary to my mother.
Your mother and I are certainly not going to ask you for money when you're not making money as a student. Did we ever get ten cents a month for your mother's home when you started teaching at the university? You can't say that because Dad's still gonna make money.
So now because of COVID-19, I can't make money, I have no food to eat, should you support me and your mother? Or would it be better if we couldn't pay our mortgage and the bank took our house and left us on the street?
We've been here for almost 50 years, but we're still Chinese, and we think about our kids.
When American children reach the age of 18, they can go out and go to college or work as they choose.
Instead of being stupid like us, who bought you a house when you were in an elite school, we bought two houses next to the golf course and sold them a year later at a profit of $468,000. Instead of paying our own mortgage, we used the money to buy you a bigger house for you.
That's why we still have such a heavy mortgage.
The Chinese concept is that "my parents' house or money is mine, I can spend it as I please, and you will leave it to me when you die".
It's not my family that has money, it's my money, it's not you. When I die, I don't have to leave it to anyone. Maybe all to a country or charity?
Why our Chinese parents are so unlucky, money to spend on you is the Chinese concept, that is the right? Why ask you to do something with the American standard, upfront to say how much it will cost?
Now I am not paying you, but I have not earned money on NMN, I will pay you if I earn money.
Although you have spent some time on the NMN label, it is not completely finished. Because I am also learning while working, so I need to revise it again and again.
It just took me a lot of time to modify the last point, which gave me a lot of trouble. I couldn't sleep for several nights, and I was very sad.
You know your brother has depression, so your mother and I can't count on him. He'll be lucky if he doesn't give us any trouble.
So can you tell me what kind of way we will get along from now on?
Chinese way or American way?
Of course, we appreciate you treating us to dinner on my and your mother's birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Chinese New Year and buying us $100 gifts each time.
On the other hand, we will invite you to dinner or buy you a cake on your birthday.
But I think the best thing we can do for you is when you and Betty are too busy to get away, your mom is always on call to look after your little granddaughter.
And when you're out of town, we pick up your delivery at your house all the time.
We've never said NO, because you're my child with no regrets or complaints.
You will be moving to a new house soon. If you live far away, who can drive right away to help you take care of the baby or take delivery?
Write so much, feel in the heart of parents and children's feelings how so cool thin?
Li Li called people's heart pull cool pull cool, not cold and.
(If you don't know what "pull" means, you can ask Betty. She must have heard it before.)
I may have been wrong not to raise you and your brother into a family with a lot of money, but we did the best we could as parents.
I wish you all the best, I hope you are better than me.
Dad with love.
亲爱的儿子： 我可能二三十年都没有给你写过信，由于你不识中文所以我还要转成英文给你。 210822
我只是想让你知道,我是1972年30岁来美国的，来时只带了200美金。在台湾我在民航局工作做飞航管制员，待遇与地位都还不错。我考取了留美考试，因脑电波跳动太快而没有让我到美国培训。
1972年我单身一人将你妈妈和你留在台湾和姥姥同住，当时你才1岁半。我在加州中国餐馆辛苦的打工8个月后才进入了China Airlines做一个小职员，每月只赚400美元。1年半后（你 3岁时）我将你们母子接来美国，因为钱赚很少日子过得很辛苦。
1975年我仍在华航工作，我在租房楼下的店面开了一家小旅行社（美国七海集旅游公司）卖国际机票，你妈与一位平小姐负责在旅行社看着，那时什么都不懂，我每天将订好座位开好的机票带回家，每张可以赚$30美金，对生活有些帮助。而且你妈妈也可以同时照顾你。
1975年我花了$3.75万美金（包括向同事借了$8000美金），我没有向我父母借一块钱在旧金山Concord买了第一栋集合式公寓租个别人收取租金，自己仍在 SFO 租房居住。1976年我转到华航SFO机场上班，学习到一些关于Check in,如何挂送行李，转机和机票价格结构与海关的知识。 1978年因赚钱太少我辞职将美国七海旅游公司迁到210 Post St，联合广场，是旧金山最好的商业区。几年下来. 公司渐渐扩大，雇佣了5-6个职员。
1976年我花了$7,2000买了第2栋房子在SFO市区Mountain Davidson.终于我们有自己的房子可以住了。 1980年我的环境已经渐渐转好，1月9日我花了$35000美金买了第一辆全新的奔驰轿车Mercedes SD-300 (我是第一个开奔驰车的旅行社老板)，1982年我在旧金山市内San Francisco Wood外面半山上买了一栋约4000平方尺的房子价值 $25.5万（当时日落区的房子才$4.5万/栋）比同时到美创业的朋友来说已经远远超越他们许多。
记得1983年我带你妈妈和你（12岁），Angel（3岁）和岳母共5人去日本东京，台北，曼谷，新加坡和香港旅游度假2周，全程坐头等舱，全线住5星级酒店(或总统套房），每个地方都有人接送，请吃饭。在那年头连3岁的小孩都能坐头等舱旅游是一件很奢侈的事。
老实说我们是第一代移民，开始时的确非常辛苦，我们的英文没有你们说得好，但我们非常的努力。不论读书求学创业做事都尽量最大的能力。这么多年我非常疼爱我的2个孩子，你们从幼稚园到8年级都是读私立学校。Angel一直到高中毕业都是读私立学校。大家都知道在美国只要是公民或居民读公立中小学都是免费的。
如今我和你妈妈都年近80，都接近老年。别人像我这个年龄多半都退休了。只是这两年COVID-19以及中美的贸易大战以致对我们的生意伤害很大。旅游和教育这两项业务几乎都中断了。赚钱就没有那么容易。但我不认为我混的比别人差？凭什么我的孩子会认为我们这一代的英文没有你们好而看轻我们？你们能像我一样来美不到10年就从一个新移民变成老板，开豪车住豪宅？
我不能容忍的是我全心爱着的孩子轻视看我，你的父亲从来不是一个无能或懒惰的人，也许英文不如你们，但我能在大学课堂粒侃侃而谈，因为那是我的专业。但不论做人，做事，求学，创业，事业，创新都没有不如你。而且在我自己的房贷都没有付清前，把在旧金山的房子卖了，把Arcadia Bonita的2栋Condo卖了，赚的钱替你买了一栋在Arcadia $127万的大房子。在Angel没有对家庭做任何贡献的情况下买了一辆Benz CLK500跑车 给他。你还能说我们做父母对你们不好吗？不爱你们吗？从来只有想念子女的父母。没有想念父母的子女。除非是没有钱用了。父母的家永远是子女的家，但子女的家永远不会是父母的家。
对于这次做NMN贴标签sticker的事，我深受打击与挫败，在完成的关头想你求助遭受拒绝。心痛的几夜都睡不着。我不是学设计的，所以这是我的短板。我知道你为这个Sticker也花了许多时间和精神，我也答应如果做成功赚到钱会给你$5000,但是Covid-19是世纪的瘟疫，加上美国和中国因贸易大战两国邦交非常紧张。以致我的旅游和教育产业都受到很大的打击，难道是因为没有赚到钱，所以才会受到自己孩子的轻视与白眼。我非常难过。记得在台湾时，我开始工作了。赚的钱全部都交给我的母亲，然后她拿一点给我做零用钱。一直到我结婚都还把薪水的一部分交给妈妈做家用。你做学生没有赚钱我和你妈妈当然不会向你要钱。请问你工作后在大学教书我们有没有每个月拿过一毛钱给你妈妈做家用？你不能说因为爸爸还会赚钱就不给了。那么现在因为Covid-19， 我赚不到钱了，没有饭吃了，你应不应该养我和你的妈妈？或者宁可是看我们付不起房贷被银行把房子收回让我们流落街头？
我们虽然来美国快50年了，毕竟我们还是中国人，事事都想到自己的孩子。美国人的孩子满18岁成年就可以出去了，要上大学或工作都由自己决定。不像我们这么笨，你在名校念书时就就替你买房子，我们在高尔夫球场旁边买了2栋房子，一年后卖掉赚了$46.8 万，我们没有拿来付我们自己的房贷，都拿去给你换一栋大的房子。所以我们到现在还要背如此重的房贷。
中国人的观念就是【我父母的房子或钱就是我的，我可以随便花，将来你们死了还不是留给我？】美国人的观念就不一样，不是我们家有钱，而是我有钱，不是你有钱，我将来死后不一定留给谁？也许全部捐个国家或慈善机构？
为什么我们中国的父母就这么倒霉，有钱花在你们的身上是中国人的观念，那就是应该的。为什么找你做点事就用美国人的标准，事先要讲好做这个要付多少钱？我现在不是不付你，而是在NMN上我还没有赚到钱，我如果赚到钱一定会付给你的。
你虽然在做NMN标签上花了些时间，但并没有完全做完，因为我自己也是在一面做一面学，所以才需要一再修改。只是最后这一点修改花了我许多时间，给了我许多困扰，我几个晚上都睡不着，我心里特别难过。你知道你弟弟有忧郁症，所以我和你妈妈没有办法寄望于他，他只要不给添麻烦就算幸运了。
那么你能不能告诉我，今后我们是采用什么方式相处？中国人的方式还是美国人的方式？当然我们很感谢你在我和你妈妈的生日，结婚纪念日，过年过节时请我们吃饭每次还给我们$100美金买礼物。相对的我们也会在你的生日邀请你们吃饭或买蛋糕给你。不过我认为我们对你最大的帮助是当你和Betty太忙无法抽身时，你妈妈都是随传随到马上去你家看顾小孙女。还有你们出城不在家时，随时都是我们去你家替你收快递。我们从来没有拒绝过，只因你是我的孩子无怨又无悔。你很快就要搬新家了，如果住的远不知谁能马上开车去帮助你看顾小baby或收快递？
写了那么多，心中感到父母子女的感情怎么会如此凉薄？叫人心里拔凉拔凉的，不寒而溧。（你如果不知道什么是拔凉拔凉的，可以问Betty， 她是北方人一定听过这句话）
也许我错了，没有把你和你弟弟生在一个巨富的家庭，过那种茶来伸手，饭来张口的日子，但是我们做父母真的已经尽力了。
祝 你一切顺利，希望你一切都比我强。
Dad
My dear boy: I may not have written to you for 20 or 30 years, but since you don't know Chinese, I have to write to you in English. 210822
I just want you to know that I came to the United States in 1972 when I was 30 years old with only $200 US dollars.
In Taiwan, I worked as an air traffic controller in civil Aviation Administration, with good treatment and status.
I passed the test to study in the United States, but my brain waves were too fast to let mecan not join this train in the United States.
I left your mother and you alone in Taiwan with grandma in 1972, when you were one and a half years old.
I worked hard in A Chinese restaurant as a waiter in California for 8 months before I joined China Airlines as a clerk with only $400 per month.
A year and a half later (when you were 3 years old), I brought you and your mother to the States, and we lived very hard because we made very little money.
I still work in China Airlines in 1975, in rental apartment downstairs opened a small travel agency (seven Sea Travel and tours) to sale international air ticket, Miss Pine (Our family friend) and your mam take care business and you in the same time. We know nothing about the travel and tours. Also l bring the air tickets back to home after work, each ticket can earn $30 dollars its big help for our life.
In 1975, I spent $37,500 (including borrowing $8,000 from colleagues). I bought the first condominium in San Francisco Concord without borrowing a single dollar from my parents and rented it to somebody while we still living in the SFO.
In 1976, I transferred to China Airlines SFO Airport to work, and learned some knowledge about Check in, how to drop off luggage, transfer, ticket price structure and customs.
I quit my job in 1978 because I wasn't making enough money and moved Seven Seas Travel and Tours to 210 Post St, Union Square, the best business district in San Francisco. Over the years, the company expanded, hiring five or six employees.
In 1976 I bought a second house in The SFO downtown Mountain Davidson for $72,000.
Finally we have our own place to live in.
In 1980, my environment was getting better. On January 9, I bought my first brand new Mercedes SD-300 for $35,000 (I was the first travel agency owner to drive a Mercedes).
In 1982 I bought a 4,000-square-foot single house halfway up the hill outside San Francisco Wood in San Francisco for $255,000 (at the time houses in The Sunset area were only $45,000) far more than my friends who had come to the States to start their own businesses.
I remember in 1983, I took your mom, you (12 years old), your young brother (3 years old) and my mother-in-law to Tokyo, Taipei, Bangkok, Singapore and Hong Kong for a 2-week vacation. We flew first class all the way and stayed in 5-star hotels (or presidential suites). We were picked up from every place and invited to dinner.
It was a luxury in those days to travel first class bring a kid 3year-old.
To be honest, we are first generation immigrants. It was really hard at the beginning. Our English was not as good as yours, but we worked very hard.
No matter study entrepreneurship work as far as possible the greatest ability.
I have loved my two kids very much for many years. You went to private school from kindergarten through eighth grade. Your brother went to private school until she graduated from high school. As we all know, public primary and secondary schools in the States are free for all citizens and residents.
Now your mom and I are both approaching 80, approaching old age. Most people at my age are retired.
It's just that the last two years of COVID-19 and the trade war between the US and China have hurt our business a lot. Tourism and education have all but ceased. Making money is not so easy. But I don't think I'm any worse than anyone else, okay?
Why should my children think that our generation's English is not good and look down on us?
You can go from a new immigrant to a boss with a fancy car and a mansion in less than 10 years like me?
What I can't tolerate is that my beloved children despise me. Your father has never been an inept or lazy man. Maybe my English is not as good as yours, but I can talk freely in college classes, because that is my major.
But no matter the person, work, study, entrepreneurship, career, innovation are not as good as you?
I sold my house in San Francisco and two Arcadia Bonita Condos before my own mortgage was paid off, and the money I made bought you a big single house in Arcadia for $1.27 million.
I bought a Benz CLK500 to your brother without making any contribution to the family.
Can you still say that our parents are bad for you? Don't you love you?
There are only parents who miss their children. Children who do not miss their parents. Unless there's no money left.
The parents' home will always be the children's home, but the children's home will never be the parents' home.
I was deeply depressed and frustrated about the NMN sticker. When I asked for help, I was rejected. I couldn't sleep for several heartbreaking nights.
I'm not trained to design, so this is my weakness.
I know you have spent a lot of time and spirit on this Sticker, and I also promised to give you $5,000 if I make money successfully. However, COVID-19 is a plague in the century, and the diplomatic relations between the United States and China are very tense due to the trade war.
As a result, my tourism and education industries have been hit hard. Is it because I have not made any money that my children despise me and look at me with contempt?
I was very sad.
I remember when I was in Taiwan, I started working. All the money I earn goes to my mother, and then she gives some of it to me for my pocket money.
Until I got married, I gave part of my salary to my mother.
Your mother and I are certainly not going to ask you for money when you're not making money as a student. Did we ever get ten cents a month for your mother's home when you started teaching at the university? You can't say that because Dad's still gonna make money.
So now because of COVID-19, I can't make money, I have no food to eat, should you support me and your mother? Or would it be better if we couldn't pay our mortgage and the bank took our house and left us on the street?
We've been here for almost 50 years, but we're still Chinese, and we think about our kids.
When American children reach the age of 18, they can go out and go to college or work as they choose.
Instead of being stupid like us, who bought you a house when you were in an elite school, we bought two houses next to the golf course and sold them a year later at a profit of $468,000. Instead of paying our own mortgage, we used the money to buy you a bigger house for you.
That's why we still have such a heavy mortgage.
The Chinese concept is that "my parents' house or money is mine, I can spend it as I please, and you will leave it to me when you die".
It's not my family that has money, it's my money, it's not you. When I die, I don't have to leave it to anyone. Maybe all to a country or charity?
Why our Chinese parents are so unlucky, money to spend on you is the Chinese concept, that is the right? Why ask you to do something with the American standard, upfront to say how much it will cost?
Now I am not paying you, but I have not earned money on NMN, I will pay you if I earn money.
Although you have spent some time on the NMN label, it is not completely finished. Because I am also learning while working, so I need to revise it again and again.
It just took me a lot of time to modify the last point, which gave me a lot of trouble. I couldn't sleep for several nights, and I was very sad.
You know your brother has depression, so your mother and I can't count on him. He'll be lucky if he doesn't give us any trouble.
So can you tell me what kind of way we will get along from now on?
Chinese way or American way?
Of course, we appreciate you treating us to dinner on my and your mother's birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Chinese New Year and buying us $100 gifts each time.
On the other hand, we will invite you to dinner or buy you a cake on your birthday.
But I think the best thing we can do for you is when you and Betty are too busy to get away, your mom is always on call to look after your little granddaughter.
And when you're out of town, we pick up your delivery at your house all the time.
We've never said NO, because you're my child with no regrets or complaints.
You will be moving to a new house soon. If you live far away, who can drive right away to help you take care of the baby or take delivery?
Write so much, feel in the heart of parents and children's feelings how so cool thin?
Li Li called people's heart pull cool pull cool, not cold and.
(If you don't know what "pull" means, you can ask Betty. She must have heard it before.)
I may have been wrong not to raise you and your brother into a family with a lot of money, but we did the best we could as parents.
I wish you all the best, I hope you are better than me.
Dad with love.
亲爱的儿子： 我可能二三十年都没有给你写过信，由于你不识中文所以我还要转成英文给你。 210822
我只是想让你知道,我是1972年30岁来美国的，来时只带了200美金。在台湾我在民航局工作做飞航管制员，待遇与地位都还不错。我考取了留美考试，因脑电波跳动太快而没有让我到美国培训。
1972年我单身一人将你妈妈和你留在台湾和姥姥同住，当时你才1岁半。我在加州中国餐馆辛苦的打工8个月后才进入了China Airlines做一个小职员，每月只赚400美元。1年半后（你 3岁时）我将你们母子接来美国，因为钱赚很少日子过得很辛苦。
1975年我仍在华航工作，我在租房楼下的店面开了一家小旅行社（美国七海集旅游公司）卖国际机票，你妈与一位平小姐负责在旅行社看着，那时什么都不懂，我每天将订好座位开好的机票带回家，每张可以赚$30美金，对生活有些帮助。而且你妈妈也可以同时照顾你。
1975年我花了$3.75万美金（包括向同事借了$8000美金），我没有向我父母借一块钱在旧金山Concord买了第一栋集合式公寓租个别人收取租金，自己仍在 SFO 租房居住。1976年我转到华航SFO机场上班，学习到一些关于Check in,如何挂送行李，转机和机票价格结构与海关的知识。 1978年因赚钱太少我辞职将美国七海旅游公司迁到210 Post St，联合广场，是旧金山最好的商业区。几年下来. 公司渐渐扩大，雇佣了5-6个职员。
1976年我花了$7,2000买了第2栋房子在SFO市区Mountain Davidson.终于我们有自己的房子可以住了。 1980年我的环境已经渐渐转好，1月9日我花了$35000美金买了第一辆全新的奔驰轿车Mercedes SD-300 (我是第一个开奔驰车的旅行社老板)，1982年我在旧金山市内San Francisco Wood外面半山上买了一栋约4000平方尺的房子价值 $25.5万（当时日落区的房子才$4.5万/栋）比同时到美创业的朋友来说已经远远超越他们许多。
记得1983年我带你妈妈和你（12岁），Angel（3岁）和岳母共5人去日本东京，台北，曼谷，新加坡和香港旅游度假2周，全程坐头等舱，全线住5星级酒店(或总统套房），每个地方都有人接送，请吃饭。在那年头连3岁的小孩都能坐头等舱旅游是一件很奢侈的事。
老实说我们是第一代移民，开始时的确非常辛苦，我们的英文没有你们说得好，但我们非常的努力。不论读书求学创业做事都尽量最大的能力。这么多年我非常疼爱我的2个孩子，你们从幼稚园到8年级都是读私立学校。Angel一直到高中毕业都是读私立学校。大家都知道在美国只要是公民或居民读公立中小学都是免费的。
如今我和你妈妈都年近80，都接近老年。别人像我这个年龄多半都退休了。只是这两年COVID-19以及中美的贸易大战以致对我们的生意伤害很大。旅游和教育这两项业务几乎都中断了。赚钱就没有那么容易。但我不认为我混的比别人差？凭什么我的孩子会认为我们这一代的英文没有你们好而看轻我们？你们能像我一样来美不到10年就从一个新移民变成老板，开豪车住豪宅？
我不能容忍的是我全心爱着的孩子轻视看我，你的父亲从来不是一个无能或懒惰的人，也许英文不如你们，但我能在大学课堂粒侃侃而谈，因为那是我的专业。但不论做人，做事，求学，创业，事业，创新都没有不如你。而且在我自己的房贷都没有付清前，把在旧金山的房子卖了，把Arcadia Bonita的2栋Condo卖了，赚的钱替你买了一栋在Arcadia $127万的大房子。在Angel没有对家庭做任何贡献的情况下买了一辆Benz CLK500跑车 给他。你还能说我们做父母对你们不好吗？不爱你们吗？从来只有想念子女的父母。没有想念父母的子女。除非是没有钱用了。父母的家永远是子女的家，但子女的家永远不会是父母的家。
对于这次做NMN贴标签sticker的事，我深受打击与挫败，在完成的关头想你求助遭受拒绝。心痛的几夜都睡不着。我不是学设计的，所以这是我的短板。我知道你为这个Sticker也花了许多时间和精神，我也答应如果做成功赚到钱会给你$5000,但是Covid-19是世纪的瘟疫，加上美国和中国因贸易大战两国邦交非常紧张。以致我的旅游和教育产业都受到很大的打击，难道是因为没有赚到钱，所以才会受到自己孩子的轻视与白眼。我非常难过。记得在台湾时，我开始工作了。赚的钱全部都交给我的母亲，然后她拿一点给我做零用钱。一直到我结婚都还把薪水的一部分交给妈妈做家用。你做学生没有赚钱我和你妈妈当然不会向你要钱。请问你工作后在大学教书我们有没有每个月拿过一毛钱给你妈妈做家用？你不能说因为爸爸还会赚钱就不给了。那么现在因为Covid-19， 我赚不到钱了，没有饭吃了，你应不应该养我和你的妈妈？或者宁可是看我们付不起房贷被银行把房子收回让我们流落街头？
我们虽然来美国快50年了，毕竟我们还是中国人，事事都想到自己的孩子。美国人的孩子满18岁成年就可以出去了，要上大学或工作都由自己决定。不像我们这么笨，你在名校念书时就就替你买房子，我们在高尔夫球场旁边买了2栋房子，一年后卖掉赚了$46.8 万，我们没有拿来付我们自己的房贷，都拿去给你换一栋大的房子。所以我们到现在还要背如此重的房贷。
中国人的观念就是【我父母的房子或钱就是我的，我可以随便花，将来你们死了还不是留给我？】美国人的观念就不一样，不是我们家有钱，而是我有钱，不是你有钱，我将来死后不一定留给谁？也许全部捐个国家或慈善机构？
为什么我们中国的父母就这么倒霉，有钱花在你们的身上是中国人的观念，那就是应该的。为什么找你做点事就用美国人的标准，事先要讲好做这个要付多少钱？我现在不是不付你，而是在NMN上我还没有赚到钱，我如果赚到钱一定会付给你的。
你虽然在做NMN标签上花了些时间，但并没有完全做完，因为我自己也是在一面做一面学，所以才需要一再修改。只是最后这一点修改花了我许多时间，给了我许多困扰，我几个晚上都睡不着，我心里特别难过。你知道你弟弟有忧郁症，所以我和你妈妈没有办法寄望于他，他只要不给添麻烦就算幸运了。
那么你能不能告诉我，今后我们是采用什么方式相处？中国人的方式还是美国人的方式？当然我们很感谢你在我和你妈妈的生日，结婚纪念日，过年过节时请我们吃饭每次还给我们$100美金买礼物。相对的我们也会在你的生日邀请你们吃饭或买蛋糕给你。不过我认为我们对你最大的帮助是当你和Betty太忙无法抽身时，你妈妈都是随传随到马上去你家看顾小孙女。还有你们出城不在家时，随时都是我们去你家替你收快递。我们从来没有拒绝过，只因你是我的孩子无怨又无悔。你很快就要搬新家了，如果住的远不知谁能马上开车去帮助你看顾小baby或收快递？
写了那么多，心中感到父母子女的感情怎么会如此凉薄？叫人心里拔凉拔凉的，不寒而溧。（你如果不知道什么是拔凉拔凉的，可以问Betty， 她是北方人一定听过这句话）
也许我错了，没有把你和你弟弟生在一个巨富的家庭，过那种茶来伸手，饭来张口的日子，但是我们做父母真的已经尽力了。
祝 你一切顺利，希望你一切都比我强。
Dad
My dear boy: I may not have written to you for 20 or 30 years, but since you don't know Chinese, I have to write to you in English. 210822
I just want you to know that I came to the United States in 1972 when I was 30 years old with only $200 US dollars.
In Taiwan, I worked as an air traffic controller in civil Aviation Administration, with good treatment and status.
I passed the test to study in the United States, but my brain waves were too fast to let mecan not join this train in the United States.
I left your mother and you alone in Taiwan with grandma in 1972, when you were one and a half years old.
I worked hard in A Chinese restaurant as a waiter in California for 8 months before I joined China Airlines as a clerk with only $400 per month.
A year and a half later (when you were 3 years old), I brought you and your mother to the States, and we lived very hard because we made very little money.
I still work in China Airlines in 1975, in rental apartment downstairs opened a small travel agency (seven Sea Travel and tours) to sale international air ticket, Miss Pine (Our family friend) and your mam take care business and you in the same time. We know nothing about the travel and tours. Also l bring the air tickets back to home after work, each ticket can earn $30 dollars its big help for our life.
In 1975, I spent $37,500 (including borrowing $8,000 from colleagues). I bought the first condominium in San Francisco Concord without borrowing a single dollar from my parents and rented it to somebody while we still living in the SFO.
In 1976, I transferred to China Airlines SFO Airport to work, and learned some knowledge about Check in, how to drop off luggage, transfer, ticket price structure and customs.
I quit my job in 1978 because I wasn't making enough money and moved Seven Seas Travel and Tours to 210 Post St, Union Square, the best business district in San Francisco. Over the years, the company expanded, hiring five or six employees.
In 1976 I bought a second house in The SFO downtown Mountain Davidson for $72,000.
Finally we have our own place to live in.
In 1980, my environment was getting better. On January 9, I bought my first brand new Mercedes SD-300 for $35,000 (I was the first travel agency owner to drive a Mercedes).
In 1982 I bought a 4,000-square-foot single house halfway up the hill outside San Francisco Wood in San Francisco for $255,000 (at the time houses in The Sunset area were only $45,000) far more than my friends who had come to the States to start their own businesses.
I remember in 1983, I took your mom, you (12 years old), your young brother (3 years old) and my mother-in-law to Tokyo, Taipei, Bangkok, Singapore and Hong Kong for a 2-week vacation. We flew first class all the way and stayed in 5-star hotels (or presidential suites). We were picked up from every place and invited to dinner.
It was a luxury in those days to travel first class bring a kid 3year-old.
To be honest, we are first generation immigrants. It was really hard at the beginning. Our English was not as good as yours, but we worked very hard.
No matter study entrepreneurship work as far as possible the greatest ability.
I have loved my two kids very much for many years. You went to private school from kindergarten through eighth grade. Your brother went to private school until she graduated from high school. As we all know, public primary and secondary schools in the States are free for all citizens and residents.
Now your mom and I are both approaching 80, approaching old age. Most people at my age are retired.
It's just that the last two years of COVID-19 and the trade war between the US and China have hurt our business a lot. Tourism and education have all but ceased. Making money is not so easy. But I don't think I'm any worse than anyone else, okay?
Why should my children think that our generation's English is not good and look down on us?
You can go from a new immigrant to a boss with a fancy car and a mansion in less than 10 years like me?
What I can't tolerate is that my beloved children despise me. Your father has never been an inept or lazy man. Maybe my English is not as good as yours, but I can talk freely in college classes, because that is my major.
But no matter the person, work, study, entrepreneurship, career, innovation are not as good as you?
I sold my house in San Francisco and two Arcadia Bonita Condos before my own mortgage was paid off, and the money I made bought you a big single house in Arcadia for $1.27 million.
I bought a Benz CLK500 to your brother without making any contribution to the family.
Can you still say that our parents are bad for you? Don't you love you?
There are only parents who miss their children. Children who do not miss their parents. Unless there's no money left.
The parents' home will always be the children's home, but the children's home will never be the parents' home.
I was deeply depressed and frustrated about the NMN sticker. When I asked for help, I was rejected. I couldn't sleep for several heartbreaking nights.
I'm not trained to design, so this is my weakness.
I know you have spent a lot of time and spirit on this Sticker, and I also promised to give you $5,000 if I make money successfully. However, COVID-19 is a plague in the century, and the diplomatic relations between the United States and China are very tense due to the trade war.
As a result, my tourism and education industries have been hit hard. Is it because I have not made any money that my children despise me and look at me with contempt?
I was very sad.
I remember when I was in Taiwan, I started working. All the money I earn goes to my mother, and then she gives some of it to me for my pocket money.
Until I got married, I gave part of my salary to my mother.
Your mother and I are certainly not going to ask you for money when you're not making money as a student. Did we ever get ten cents a month for your mother's home when you started teaching at the university? You can't say that because Dad's still gonna make money.
So now because of COVID-19, I can't make money, I have no food to eat, should you support me and your mother? Or would it be better if we couldn't pay our mortgage and the bank took our house and left us on the street?
We've been here for almost 50 years, but we're still Chinese, and we think about our kids.
When American children reach the age of 18, they can go out and go to college or work as they choose.
Instead of being stupid like us, who bought you a house when you were in an elite school, we bought two houses next to the golf course and sold them a year later at a profit of $468,000. Instead of paying our own mortgage, we used the money to buy you a bigger house for you.
That's why we still have such a heavy mortgage.
The Chinese concept is that "my parents' house or money is mine, I can spend it as I please, and you will leave it to me when you die".
It's not my family that has money, it's my money, it's not you. When I die, I don't have to leave it to anyone. Maybe all to a country or charity?
Why our Chinese parents are so unlucky, money to spend on you is the Chinese concept, that is the right? Why ask you to do something with the American standard, upfront to say how much it will cost?
Now I am not paying you, but I have not earned money on NMN, I will pay you if I earn money.
Although you have spent some time on the NMN label, it is not completely finished. Because I am also learning while working, so I need to revise it again and again.
It just took me a lot of time to modify the last point, which gave me a lot of trouble. I couldn't sleep for several nights, and I was very sad.
You know your brother has depression, so your mother and I can't count on him. He'll be lucky if he doesn't give us any trouble.
So can you tell me what kind of way we will get along from now on?
Chinese way or American way?
Of course, we appreciate you treating us to dinner on my and your mother's birthdays, wedding anniversaries, Chinese New Year and buying us $100 gifts each time.
On the other hand, we will invite you to dinner or buy you a cake on your birthday.
But I think the best thing we can do for you is when you and Betty are too busy to get away, your mom is always on call to look after your little granddaughter.
And when you're out of town, we pick up your delivery at your house all the time.
We've never said NO, because you're my child with no regrets or complaints.
You will be moving to a new house soon. If you live far away, who can drive right away to help you take care of the baby or take delivery?
Write so much, feel in the heart of parents and children's feelings how so cool thin?
Li Li called people's heart pull cool pull cool, not cold and.
(If you don't know what "pull" means, you can ask Betty. She must have heard it before.)
I may have been wrong not to raise you and your brother into a family with a lot of money, but we did the best we could as parents.
I wish you all the best, I hope you are better than me.
Dad with love.
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